It didn't take Janet Smith long to accept a Facebook friend request from a total stranger. Smith, 18, (not her real name) doesn't normally make friends with strangers, but this stranger seemed to share things in common. Amber Moore said she had just moved to Marin County (north of San Francisco)--where Smith lives--and would, like Smith, soon be a freshman at the University of California at Santa Barbara. (Smith had added UCSB to her networks on her Facebook page.)
"I'm a nice person, so I told her I'd show her around," recalls Smith. Soon the conversation moved from Facebook messaging to texting each other on their mobile phones. Moore invited Smith over to her house for margaritas and a hot tub; Smith says she thought that was strange for a first meeting. She went back and checked Moore's Facebook account and realized that all of Moore's friends were in California; none were from Texas, where Moore said she had been living. That seemed odd to Smith as well.
The two girls made plans to meet several times, but Moore always had a last-minute excuse for not making it. Smith started to get suspicious. She called Moore, who didn't answer. She asked Moore to call her; Moore told Smith she "wasn't a phone person."
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Smith told her parents about her suspicions and then paid $5 to a website to find out who owned the cellphone number. It turned out to be a man who lived in San Rafael, Calif., where Smith also lived. Then Smith and her parents spent $40 on a different website to do an even deeper search; it gave them the man's address, his age, how long he had been at the address and other information. "I immediately de-friended 'her' on Facebook," says Smith.
She and her parents went to the police to see what could be done, but no crime had been committed. It is not illegal to create a fake Facebook account. Smith said she had a really creepy feeling about some older guy masquerading as a college freshman girl.
Yes, you may have heard this before. But, says Linda Criddle, president of the Safe Internet Alliance, most of the advice about what not to do on Facebook "is falling on deaf ears. There's a disconnect between the advice and the actions."A couple days later, Amber Moore's Facebook account vanished completely. The lesson, says Smith: "I don't accept any friend requests from people I don't know." Facebookers, beware: You don't really know who you're friending when you say yes to strangers.
Criddle points out that at one time she had just 23 friends on LinkedIn. If you added the friends of her friends, the network was several thousand people. Adding the friends of those friends, she got to three-quarters of a million people. "Once you've shared something with any friends, it's in their power, not yours, how far it goes. These friends may have their sharing set to public," warns Criddle.
So remember, don't broadcast when you're going on vacation. Friends of friends have been known to burglarize homes. Don't boast about your new iPhone 4 or the cool new flat-screen TV you have--that can make you a target for theft. Don't post your address; if you do, thieves have a road map to your home or apartment. Keep all photos of family, friends and things you own private, so thieves don't have access to any more helpful details.
The safest thing to do is to put your privacy settings on the least public option possible--and still think twice before you friend strangers or post telling personal details.There are no records of how many thefts have been committed with the help of Facebook profiles or other social networking sites. Notes Criddle, "There's not a place on the police report for 'enabled by information found online.'" But police are increasingly aware of the problem, she says, and the FBI is also getting up to speed on Internet-enabled crime. The challenges: These are not topics that most officers learned about at the police academy, and as municipal budgets are cut across the U.S., fewer officers are having to do more work.
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